'I have a baby right now!' During his first comedy set after giving birth – comedy actor Lily Philips was blurred – not just confused with fans' lily Philips.
The ITV stand -up Scotch show was regularly understood by Lily that she was making her routine jokes about her dog's vagina. She was definitely Not It is believed that a show is doing exactly about children or maternity. But she could not include herself.
This 'Baby Bubble' was not a pleasure, but Lily could not help but could not share: There were no birds, flowers and bees that were bursting with a comedy's raids like Disney Devi.
No: her life had changed, and she was in hell. Ever since the three -day labor began in the hospital, she stayed in hell, where she was decent, infantized and neglected until it was too late.
Lily says, 'I needed everyone to know what happened to me, because it was all.' Metro Earlier, before crying her Edinburgh Frangue Show, about the trauma of haching the baby (this is also ridiculous).
“I want to go to the fact that people don't talk about it, 'they surprisely cut it into its sweet outer part, which he confesses that he often removes the audience from the guard. (No one expected that word c ***, ha!)
'We paint this picture [welcoming a baby] Magic, beautiful and life -changing, and these are the things. But we are really afraid to go into the horrible side of it, because it seems that we do not love our child and we are sorry.
“Those two things can exist at the same time, and one of them does not wrong.”
So this is the story of Lily. Without warning of all these flowers.
Lily was the first in his National Children's Birth Trust (NCT) group to give birth to the pings of Gurbus Mems: 'You've got it!' And 'you are the goddess!' And 'you are so strong!'
'Women are amazing that they receive birth, but [this messaging] Lily says, also gives you the idea that you can correct your birth. “Forced positiveness can make you feel like a failure, so if you do not have this perfect birth experience.”
Then get rid of pain. If you do not have epidoral, apparently you are corrupt?
'Because of my nonsense in my head, I waited three days before I became epidoreal. So I was working for three F *** day, 'she says.
The hospital was also reluctant to relieve pain.
“Where you should have a baby, they do not offer you something that will help you with a good documentary pain,” Lily said.
“Then be like you …” No, I really want one. ” They are like, “Well, okay, you have to climb two floors in the hospital when you are naked and screaming like a dog.”
Lily used to tell doctors that she thought her baby was stuck, because the pain was so severe, and it was getting worse. She was not dilapidated and was three centimeters for three days.
“Obviously, I had never had a baby before, but I was just trying to tell them how I was feeling, and they just kept saying,” No, okay. The heart rate is fine, “Lily remembers.
To summarize this: 'Birth is only an unreasonable pain of hours and hours, where every time and then someone comes with you and sweets you.'
Lily's doctor kept talking about natural birth. She was a wonderful, natural birth. Everything will be fine.
“It makes you feel like a baby when I read before I was about to be so empowered,” says Lily. 'I just felt the opposite. I felt very weak. '
Lily called for a C -section.
'Have you ever been so hurt that you are asking someone to be open?' She jokes, and she added: 'It is a good thing to do a section. This is a crazy place. '
But not. “Naturally,” he repeated.
Of course. When Lily began to push all hell, and her daughter's daughter's heart fell.
He was thrown into the theater and if he had to do an emergency section, he was given a form of consent on the way.
Lily says, “They don't hear a word you say most of the time, and then suddenly you have to sign this legal document, and they are like,” Oh, she's fine to sign it. We will definitely take it … she's not high, she's not unconscious. “
They tested the vent house suction cup – like a toilet – which is placed on the baby's head to help the contraction. But it didn't work. Then came the forces, a spoonful of contradictions that are also used around the baby's head.
How many women experience traumatic births?
According to the Birth Truma Association, which is a week of trauma this week, 5 % of women experience PTSD after birth. It is about 25,000 to 30,000 in the UK a year.
Often women say that neglect or poor communication from those who care for health professionals participated in their trauma.
Thankfully, Lily was later epideoor, because she also had an incident: when a doctor cuts the area between the opening of the vagina and the anus.
Lily's partner described the scene as a 'tug of war'.
Lily says, 'They realized that she was not a reason to come because she was behind, which is the wrong position.'
“That's why I had a lot of trouble in my back, and her bone was wrapped in her body and her throat, so she was just trapped.”
Eventually, they pulled it out.
'They put the baby on you for the moment you should understand about you, but you are still undergoing a massive trauma, and they are like this, “It's beautiful”. But I just feel broken. '
Although the world is so conscious of mental health, it seems that it is lost from maternity wards.
Half of Lily's joke, 'they are passing through a checklist for post -birth sadness.
Whenever Lily asked how to do something with her child, it will be decided: they will laugh at her, or rotate her eyes.
Lily recalls, 'They just look quite angry that you do not know how to take care of a child, though we keep saying that we have not done this before.'
'I just think it would be strange if you were really good at breastfeeding before breastfeeding someone. Where are you learning? '
Lily had to prove that Lily, after her episome lily, to add another blurry of humiliation throughout the experience, she could stay in the cardboard before she left.
“They bring you to the nurses' station,” says Lily. 'But you are just like an animal right now. At the moment, you don't think, “This is too much – why can't they just come with me in the toilet? Why can't it be more private?”
'But you are just naked there, you are leaving every substance, you don't know the night and day. You are only, like, inhuman, at this point. '
Forces, a ventose and episotomy explained
According to NHS:
A vent house (Vacuum Cup) is connected to the baby's head through suction. A soft or hard plastic or metal cup is connected to a suction device through a tube. The cup fits your baby's head firmly.
During a contraction and with the help of your push, the specialist or midwives slowly pulls out to help your baby supply.
Bridges There are smooth metal devices that look like large spoons or tongues. They are curved to fit around the baby's head. The forces are carefully positioned around your child's head and joined the handles together.
With a contraction and your push, a cardiologist slowly pulls to help your baby supply.
An episotomy When doctors cut the vagina between the vagina and the anus during the vagina, the opening of the vagina widespread, which makes the baby easier.
In England, installments are not normalized, but in situations where the child is in trouble and needs to be born quickly, if the forces or vacuum delivery (venthouse) is required, or if the anus is at risk of tears.
Lily's story is not once. Many years later, he realized it when he finished open doors for friends experiences, as everyone slowly began to be honest about his birth, and began to compare notes on his maternity ward experiences. They got a disturbing match.
'First so I thought it was only me, and maybe I'm worried [the doctors] Or I didn't know what to do, and all other mothers did, and it was bad, 'Lily says.
At home, Lily's baby did not sleep for more than an hour at a time. He is suspected of partially traumatic birth.
Until sleeping, it became terrifying for eight months, and his mood changed.
'What I felt very disappointing in these eight months was the feeling that it should be the most magical time of my life. But in fact, I felt like I was in hell, but I couldn't tell anyone that I was in hell.
When he had a celebration card all over his house as he said, “You are very lucky!” And “what's a joy!” , Lily was making a terrible post -offsotomy toilet trip in tears with her baby attached to her chest.
'It doesn't feel lucky?' She remembers thinking.
After her birth, fellow NTC Mumz asked Lily what her experience is like: 'Was it Incredible? Did you feel? Powerful?
Lily says, “I was writing this very dark message what happened, and then I received another message saying,” There is no negative birth stories, please! ”
'So I was like that … Oh, should I not do? What are the rules? And since you have never done before, you tell the world what they want to hear. You start to censor yourself. '
That is why Lily wants to paint a clear picture of her experience for her show.
Lily fears that people can think that she is sorry for her child, what she doesn't do. Or it's all bad, which is not so. But once, she would like to leave the door at the door.
She says, 'Sometimes I feel a little bit of anxiety to the audience.'
“But I think this is something I have to end, because it's a show I wish I could see.”
Lily Philips: From August 1 to August 12, 515 monkey barrel comedy continues to cry at the Edinburgh Francaj Festival, monkey barrel 2. Tickets here.
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